If He Does These 20 Toxic Things, Then He’s A Covered Narcissist


Most of us never see it coming. <>Above all, when we are in love, and we instantly become blind to everything that can jeopardize our happiness, what we call conscious denial.<><>

Unfortunately, we only become aware of what has happened to us when the damage has already been done.<><>

Then suddenly something opens our eyes, and all the things we have experienced seem horrible.<><>

The truth is that they have always been horrible, but we have chosen to make them pretty.<><>

This is what happens when emotional abuse surprises you. <>You never see it coming, you only feel the consequences.<><>

How can your mind be ready to face something that you thought happened suddenly?<><>

I know it’s impossible.<><>

So you are facing one of the biggest challenges in your healing.<><>

First, you look back, and you constantly ask yourself how you could have endured so much bullshit that he subjected you to.<><>

You can’t believe what he did and how you reacted. <>You cannot believe the number of things that you have justified.<><>

In retrospect, it is both absolutely ridiculous and sad.<><>

But there is an important lesson that you have learned. <>You can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change.<><>

You cannot force someone to love you by loving them back.<><>

Here is the lesson each of you should learn if you go out with someone (and suspect) that he is a disguised narcissist.<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

1. Everything revolves around him, and no one else<><>

He only cares about himself. <>There is no sentence that does not contain the word “I”.<><>

You will notice that when you go out with your friends, he only talks about him.<><>

The whole conversation revolves around him. <>Even if someone starts talking about something else, they will use it to put themselves forward.<><>

2. It’s like he says not otherwise<><>

He never takes into account the opinions of others. <>When he decides something, it’s his way.<><>

It’s like you don’t even exist in his world. <>You can speak and beg, he won’t even pay attention.<><>

3. He manipulates you<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

He knows each of your movements; <>he knows each of your reactions.<><>

Thanks to this, he can manipulate and control you to do exactly what he wants you to do.<><>

And in the end, you will feel like you did what he wanted on purpose. <>This is how good he is a manipulator.<><>

It is not the worst. <>No, the worst part is that he likes to see you bow to his will.<><>

He is proud to have a nice and well mannered puppet who will do exactly what he wants.<><>

4. He has two weights, two measures<><>

When it comes to your life, there are more rules than you can imagine.<><>

You have to make decisions throughout your life with care, making sure you don’t go wrong (he says).<><>

But when it comes to him, the rules are different. <>All the things that you don’t have the right to do, he has the right to do.<><>

When he makes a mistake for which you would be punished, it is not so serious.<><>

5. The opinion of others is very important to him<><>

He is very attached to his reputation. <>He always stands out because he must always be the most charming and kindest person you have ever met.<><>

He doesn’t stop until he provokes this feeling in someone he has met.<><>

If showing off means belittling another, he does it anyway because he doesn’t care who he should crush to appear the best.<><>

6. You are solely responsible<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

Dismissing is his favorite game. <>He is never responsible for anything.<><>

If you feel bad, it’s because you’ve done this to yourself. <>It’s never him.<><>

He is the angel, and you are the devil. <>He has probably called you “bad” and “manipulative” several times, although you both know he is the bad guy, not you.<><>

7. He’s the best<><>

He always boasts of being the best, of doing everything better than anyone.<><>

If you ask him, he is the master of the universe. <>He will admit it without any shame.<><>

You know that people who have really accomplished something never boast about it. <>They keep it to themselves, and only if you insist they tell you, they will.<><>

Well, you never have to ask him anything, he will brag about everything without any invitation.<><>

8.  feeds on negativity<><>

Whenever he feels a positive energy, he will come as close as possible to you to empty everything.<><>

At times like this, he even pretends to really love you. <>It pretends to want to make you happy.<><>

So naturally, after each conversation with him, you feel emotionally exhausted.<><>

Your positive energy is sucked dry, and all you have is negative energy.<><>

9. He has a double personality<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

When you go out with other people, he is so charming and positive. <>Anyone who has the chance to speak to him will instantly appreciate it. <>It’s an angel.<><>

But when you are just the two of you, his personality changes. <>It becomes dark and cruel, without compassion and without respect for you.<><>

10. He can’t stand criticism<><>

He’s a pro when it comes to criticizing others, especially you. <>He acts like he knows everything, and pretends to really want to help you.<><>

In the opposite case, except for the fact that you really want to help him while he is only pretending, he does not listen.<><>

He will not follow your advice because he truly believes that he is perfect as he is.<><>

11. He is full of excuses<><>

He expects you to drop everything when he needs you, but when you need him, he always has something better to do.<><>

He always has an excuse for not doing what you want.<><>

12. He dramatizes everything<><>

Nothing is ever simple with him in your life.<><>

You probably even wonder sometimes if you are not in a Spanish soap because all the situations are so similar. <>There are so many dramas going on.<><>

13. needs to be validated all the time<><>

Narcissists need to prove themselves, especially with those who doubt them.<><>

It is something that bothers them constantly, and almost everything they do is to prove to everyone that they are perfect, that they have succeeded in life.<><>

What he does is not because he wants to be a better man. <>It is not because he wants to prove himself that he can do it, but because he wants to boast to everyone that he is magnificent.<><>

14. Only perfection matters<><>

He won’t stop until he gets what he wants and the way he wants it. <>So nothing is good enough until it is perfect.<><>

It’s a pretty bad personality trait, and it’s characteristic for narcissists because the pursuit of perfection means getting what you want at all costs – even if it means crushing people, they don’t care .<><>

They will do whatever it takes.<><>

15. He doesn’t understand empathy<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

You probably tried to talk to her about something that was bothering you. <>You probably didn’t get anything in return.<><>

Your misery and suffering mean nothing to him because they do not concern him or directly affect him.<><>

He only understands empathy when she has something to do with him. <>When another person suffers, he doesn’t care.<><>

It will even refocus the conversation you have on your own person.<><>

16. Has a defense mechanism<><>

Believe it or not, there is a reason why all narcissists are bad and cold.<><>

There must have been a trigger that made them like this, probably when they were still young.<><>

A narcissist will run away if you accidentally crack him and understand why he acts the way he does.<><>

They have huge emotional walls built around them, and they won’t tear them down for anyone.<><>

They have learned that vulnerability is a sign of weakness that they cannot let anyone see.<><>

17. breaks you and repairs you right after<><>

It’s like one of his hobbies. <>In the normal world, the person who made you suffer, the one who broke you has no right to return to your life.<><>

This person does not have the right to help you heal because it is because of them that you must heal.<><>

The logical thing to do is to walk away from that person and face what is happening to you.<><>

This is not the case when you are with a narcissist. <>A narcissist will break you and come back to comfort you.<><>

You will be confused, but by the time you are broken, consolation is all you need, so naturally you take what you can get. <>This is the game he plays.<><>

18. He never lets go of the past<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

Never. <>He remembers what you argued about a year ago.<><>

It’s like he keeps a diary of everything you said or did wrong, and he makes sure you never forget it either.<><>

Whenever you start an argument, it evokes the past.<><>

There is a reason why he does this. <>If you have noticed, when you win the argument and he has nothing more to say, he takes out what you have done in the past and opens a Pandora’s box of arguments that never ends.<><>

19. He Mistreats You Emotionally<><>

When you love someone, the chances of them realizing that they are emotionally abusing you are very slim.<><>

After being abused for a while, you get used to it. <>This behavior becomes normal for you.<><>

After a while, you start looking for excuses for your partner.<><>

You start to justify their behavior because you still love this person, and you hope that this is just a phase. <>And that it will stop.<><>

He is aware of the fact that you love him, and he takes the opportunity to do whatever he wants because he knows that you will come back every time.<><>

20. Love is no longer what you thought<><>

He has convinced you by the way he treats you that love is a one-way street – you give and you get nothing in return.<><>

It made you believe that this is what it is supposed to look like. <>Well, it isn’t!<><>

Narcissists are incapable of loving anyone except themselves. <>Because to love someone, you must first love yourself.<><>

 

Most of us never see it coming. <>Above all, when we are in love, and we instantly become blind to everything that can jeopardize our happiness, what we call conscious denial.<><>

Unfortunately, we only become aware of what has happened to us when the damage has already been done.<><>

Then suddenly something opens our eyes, and all the things we have experienced seem horrible.<><>

The truth is that they have always been horrible, but we have chosen to make them pretty.<><>

This is what happens when emotional abuse surprises you. <>You never see it coming, you only feel the consequences.<><>

How can your mind be ready to face something that you thought happened suddenly?<><>

I know it’s impossible.<><>

So you are facing one of the biggest challenges in your healing.<><>

First, you look back, and you constantly ask yourself how you could have endured so much bullshit that he subjected you to.<><>

You can’t believe what he did and how you reacted. <>You cannot believe the number of things that you have justified.<><>

In retrospect, it is both absolutely ridiculous and sad.<><>

But there is an important lesson that you have learned. <>You can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change.<><>

You cannot force someone to love you by loving them back.<><>

Here is the lesson each of you should learn if you go out with someone (and suspect) that he is a disguised narcissist.<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

1. Everything revolves around him, and no one else<><>

He only cares about himself. <>There is no sentence that does not contain the word “I”.<><>

You will notice that when you go out with your friends, he only talks about him.<><>

The whole conversation revolves around him. <>Even if someone starts talking about something else, they will use it to put themselves forward.<><>

2. It’s like he says not otherwise<><>

He never takes into account the opinions of others. <>When he decides something, it’s his way.<><>

It’s like you don’t even exist in his world. <>You can speak and beg, he won’t even pay attention.<><>

3. He manipulates you<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

He knows each of your movements; <>he knows each of your reactions.<><>

Thanks to this, he can manipulate and control you to do exactly what he wants you to do.<><>

And in the end, you will feel like you did what he wanted on purpose. <>This is how good he is a manipulator.<><>

It is not the worst. <>No, the worst part is that he likes to see you bow to his will.<><>

He is proud to have a nice and well mannered puppet who will do exactly what he wants.<><>

4. He has two weights, two measures<><>

When it comes to your life, there are more rules than you can imagine.<><>

You have to make decisions throughout your life with care, making sure you don’t go wrong (he says).<><>

But when it comes to him, the rules are different. <>All the things that you don’t have the right to do, he has the right to do.<><>

When he makes a mistake for which you would be punished, it is not so serious.<><>

5. The opinion of others is very important to him<><>

He is very attached to his reputation. <>He always stands out because he must always be the most charming and kindest person you have ever met.<><>

He doesn’t stop until he provokes this feeling in someone he has met.<><>

If showing off means belittling another, he does it anyway because he doesn’t care who he should crush to appear the best.<><>

6. You are solely responsible<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

Dismissing is his favorite game. <>He is never responsible for anything.<><>

If you feel bad, it’s because you’ve done this to yourself. <>It’s never him.<><>

He is the angel, and you are the devil. <>He has probably called you “bad” and “manipulative” several times, although you both know he is the bad guy, not you.<><>

7. He’s the best<><>

He always boasts of being the best, of doing everything better than anyone.<><>

If you ask him, he is the master of the universe. <>He will admit it without any shame.<><>

You know that people who have really accomplished something never boast about it. <>They keep it to themselves, and only if you insist they tell you, they will.<><>

Well, you never have to ask him anything, he will brag about everything without any invitation.<><>

8.  feeds on negativity<><>

Whenever he feels a positive energy, he will come as close as possible to you to empty everything.<><>

At times like this, he even pretends to really love you. <>It pretends to want to make you happy.<><>

So naturally, after each conversation with him, you feel emotionally exhausted.<><>

Your positive energy is sucked dry, and all you have is negative energy.<><>

9. He has a double personality<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

When you go out with other people, he is so charming and positive. <>Anyone who has the chance to speak to him will instantly appreciate it. <>It’s an angel.<><>

But when you are just the two of you, his personality changes. <>It becomes dark and cruel, without compassion and without respect for you.<><>

10. He can’t stand criticism<><>

He’s a pro when it comes to criticizing others, especially you. <>He acts like he knows everything, and pretends to really want to help you.<><>

In the opposite case, except for the fact that you really want to help him while he is only pretending, he does not listen.<><>

He will not follow your advice because he truly believes that he is perfect as he is.<><>

11. He is full of excuses<><>

He expects you to drop everything when he needs you, but when you need him, he always has something better to do.<><>

He always has an excuse for not doing what you want.<><>

12. He dramatizes everything<><>

Nothing is ever simple with him in your life.<><>

You probably even wonder sometimes if you are not in a Spanish soap because all the situations are so similar. <>There are so many dramas going on.<><>

13. needs to be validated all the time<><>

Narcissists need to prove themselves, especially with those who doubt them.<><>

It is something that bothers them constantly, and almost everything they do is to prove to everyone that they are perfect, that they have succeeded in life.<><>

What he does is not because he wants to be a better man. <>It is not because he wants to prove himself that he can do it, but because he wants to boast to everyone that he is magnificent.<><>

14. Only perfection matters<><>

He won’t stop until he gets what he wants and the way he wants it. <>So nothing is good enough until it is perfect.<><>

It’s a pretty bad personality trait, and it’s characteristic for narcissists because the pursuit of perfection means getting what you want at all costs – even if it means crushing people, they don’t care .<><>

They will do whatever it takes.<><>

15. He doesn’t understand empathy<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

You probably tried to talk to her about something that was bothering you. <>You probably didn’t get anything in return.<><>

Your misery and suffering mean nothing to him because they do not concern him or directly affect him.<><>

He only understands empathy when she has something to do with him. <>When another person suffers, he doesn’t care.<><>

It will even refocus the conversation you have on your own person.<><>

16. Has a defense mechanism<><>

Believe it or not, there is a reason why all narcissists are bad and cold.<><>

There must have been a trigger that made them like this, probably when they were still young.<><>

A narcissist will run away if you accidentally crack him and understand why he acts the way he does.<><>

They have huge emotional walls built around them, and they won’t tear them down for anyone.<><>

They have learned that vulnerability is a sign of weakness that they cannot let anyone see.<><>

17. breaks you and repairs you right after<><>

It’s like one of his hobbies. <>In the normal world, the person who made you suffer, the one who broke you has no right to return to your life.<><>

This person does not have the right to help you heal because it is because of them that you must heal.<><>

The logical thing to do is to walk away from that person and face what is happening to you.<><>

This is not the case when you are with a narcissist. <>A narcissist will break you and come back to comfort you.<><>

You will be confused, but by the time you are broken, consolation is all you need, so naturally you take what you can get. <>This is the game he plays.<><>

18. He never lets go of the past<><>

If he does these 20 toxic things, then he's a covered narcissist

Never. <>He remembers what you argued about a year ago.<><>

It’s like he keeps a diary of everything you said or did wrong, and he makes sure you never forget it either.<><>

Whenever you start an argument, it evokes the past.<><>

There is a reason why he does this. <>If you have noticed, when you win the argument and he has nothing more to say, he takes out what you have done in the past and opens a Pandora’s box of arguments that never ends.<><>

19. He Mistreats You Emotionally<><>

When you love someone, the chances of them realizing that they are emotionally abusing you are very slim.<><>

After being abused for a while, you get used to it. <>This behavior becomes normal for you.<><>

After a while, you start looking for excuses for your partner.<><>

You start to justify their behavior because you still love this person, and you hope that this is just a phase. <>And that it will stop.<><>

He is aware of the fact that you love him, and he takes the opportunity to do whatever he wants because he knows that you will come back every time.<><>

20. Love is no longer what you thought<><>

He has convinced you by the way he treats you that love is a one-way street – you give and you get nothing in return.<><>

It made you believe that this is what it is supposed to look like. <>Well, it isn’t!<><>

Narcissists are incapable of loving anyone except themselves. <>Because to love someone, you must first love yourself.<><>

 


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