Love, the couple, life together … So many complex things that can lead us to bang our heads against the walls!
Maybe that’s exactly the kind of situation you’re going through right now …
You met a man and you like him a lot. Until then, you also had the impression of pleasing him. But suddenly, he plays the disinterested and does not call you as much as before. His messages are rare, as are his smiles.
On your side, you want to engage with him. You want to officially put yourself in a relationship and start a serious story. But the scenario is repeated: every time you take a step towards him, he makes one the opposite!
In short, he moves away. You think only of him, but he does not seem to think about you at all!
Do not forget yourself!
This is the first tip we could give you. You are clearly facing a man who blows hot and cold. You make efforts to understand it and it’s all to your credit. It’s normal, do not get discouraged too quickly!
But beware, if it treats you as an option for too long, you may suffer. And that’s the last thing we want.
Be careful not to forget you. By trying to understand and seduce him, do not forget to think of yourself. Do not forget your own desires and your own desires. Your goals and your personal life.
You are marvelous. And he must be able to realize it. He must be able to esteem you and to consider you at your true value. If not, why stay with him? A romantic relationship of two-on-one, mutual respect and sharing.
Anyway, if you find yourself trapped in a dubious and one-way relationship, here are 5 things you must remember:
1. When we love someone, we make them go first
Attention, this is not to take literally! He may very well not leave you the last piece of pie and love you deeply. It is just as normal that he can cancel one of your appointments if his sister is sick.
Let’s just say that true love, as we said before, is always built on the notion of respect. In other words, when we love someone, we are dedicated to him and we do his best to make the other feel good.
We do our utmost to make our half feel esteemed and valued.
If you feel like you have to compete with other women for her attention and love, that’s a bad sign. You are not a name on a list!
You are not an option or a second choice. You deserve to be the priority of your man and nothing less.
2. Love is given, it is not won
Love is a fight, it’s true. In the sense that it requires a lot of work and a lot of effort. But no one should be forced to fight for the love of his partner. It’s supposed to be an “acquired”. After all, love is the reason you get in a relationship. And not the opposite.
We do not get in a relationship with someone in the hope that he will love us one day!
No one should be forced to fight to exist in their relationship. No one should be forced to struggle to be heard and appreciated. Nobody should be forced to fight to be taken into account.
In the end, it’s relatively simple: either he loves you and he gives you his heart; either you fight like a lioness and that means he does not care about you!
Love is a gift. Self-giving. It must be done voluntarily and in tenderness.
In short, if you have to fight for him to look at you, it’s also a very bad sign. The sign of a runner, a manipulator or both at once!
Love is a complex feeling, just as living together is not always easy. But the affection must be acquired.
3. Life is far too short to settle for crumbs
Just look around. To look at the world and the people around us. Life is complicated, especially for some. It reminds us that life is short and that you have to make the most of it.
Life is too short to pass alongside a man who has no esteem for us! Life is too short to be satisfied with semi love or something close to it.
This life, this life so precious that we have the chance to have deserves that we leave in search of great love. It may be a little silly, but I believe it. I believe in great love and you should do the same.
Of course, nobody is perfect. You will never meet the perfect person. But you will be able to meet someone who loves you madly. Someone who makes you laugh and makes you vibrate. Someone who knows how to take care of you and love you to your true value.
4. There is someone who is right for you
I know, this man likes you a lot. You have feelings for him. But do not you think you deserve better? Me yes! And most importantly, I know you deserve better. I know that there is someone waiting for you who will treat you as you should, as the great person you are.
Love, despite its complexity, is also the most beautiful thing in the world. And when we love, we should not spend our days hoping that our partner notices us and finally deigns to give us his love.
No, love is precisely the opposite: it is to spend one’s time proving to the other that it is exceptional. It reminds him every day that we feel lucky to have met him. It is caring for the other and pampering it, every day and not just once every three months.
In short, when we really love someone, we do not need to convince him of our own worth. He already knows her and that’s why he loves us.
I also believe that meeting the right person allows us to see more clearly. We understand why our previous relationships failed. We find self-confidence and we see our anxieties (the majority of them) fly away.
We understand above all that a couple who love each other really encourages and supports themselves.
5. Concentrate on what really matters
I know that everything I write above is easier said than done. You are trapped. You love this boy and you feel unable to detach yourself from him. To help you, I decided to make a list …
A list of things you need to focus on In doing so, you will realize very quickly that he does not deserve you. That you are better than him and that he has made no effort to find a place in your life.
- Your family. The older you get, the less time you spend with your family and it’s a shame because no one will ever love you like them. Remember this the next time he cancels one of your appointments at the last minute. Go find your parents and enjoy them!
- Your friends. They are counted on the fingers of one hand, but they are precious. Once again, do not hesitate to turn to your girlfriends. To spend time with them. The discussion will allow you to see more clearly and understand whether or not it deserves the benefit of all or even a new chance.
- Your job. You have ambition. You like what you do. So, do not forget it for the benefit of a man you know recently and who is already forcing you to spend sleepless nights. Work can be an excellent outlet for forgetting and lightning ideas.
Just remember this, if it does not treat you as a priority, give it change and move on. You deserve the world, not just a few crumbs. You are worth a thousand times better than that.